How to handle micro aggressions at work.

This is something that we shouldn’t have to deal with in the first place. For years, this used to get me down and would stay with me for longer than I should have let it. At the time, I couldn’t help it. Then one day, I decided to make a shift. I decided to create a reframe for myself. 

Here’s what I did to shift my reality from feeling uneasy to feeling strong. 

I realised that I can’t always change what’s going on around me. 

However, I can try to shift and reframe how I view the same situation. 

Let’s break it down.

As part of my many journeys of self development, I came across this quote by Dadi Janki. In a bid to find more peace in my heart. This quote stayed loud in my head, repeating itself every time I came across another challenge.  

“Expect nothing, accept everything.” Dadi Janki

After this, every time I felt disappointed, angry, frustrated or sad -  I realised it was because I expected things to be a certain way. When I started to shift my expectations to no expectation, things started to change. 

I started applying this to the micro aggressions I was facing. I kept expecting people to behave kindly towards me. Yes you’d think this is the way people ‘should’ be. Let’s face it, we still have a long way to go. So when I started expecting less - everything shifted. Anything more was a bonus. 

The results? 

Nothing around me changed. What did change, is how I felt. I stopped feeling disappointed and hurt. 

I started feeling stronger, more empowered and unstoppable!

I remembered that the way people react towards me, is usually a reflection of themselves more than anything. It’s nothing to do with me. It’s all to do with their own heart and their own journey in life. 

This simple reframe has the potential and power to shift your reality.